Welcome back dear reader, hope you’ve been having worry–free week. Like I said last week in the first part of this post As we grow older…, I’d be sharing six tips on maintaining relationships with parents and grandparents from my perspective. You can drop your tips if you have any in the comment section below, I’m here to learn too😎.
• Always check up on them: Especially if you are staying far from them. You could even put a reminder on your phone if you’re very busy, include it in your to do list, you could decide how often you want to call. Find out how their business is going, how their job is going, ask about their health, let them know that you’re still very much interested in their lives. My paternal grandma once told me that one of the things that makes her very happy and keeps her in health is hearing from me, my siblings and cousins. You know, our grandparents are closer to their glorious exits, so we owe it to them to make their last years memorable.
• Keep them updated: By so doing you’re carrying them along and it fosters a sense of belonging and trust. Your parents shouldn’t be hearing about major events in your life from a third party (depending on the relationship you have with them).
• Pray for them: You pray for who you love, if they are dear to your heart, then they should be in your prayer list. Write it down if you have to, pray for their business, job, and their health. There’s something about a child’s prayer for a parent and a grandchild’s prayer for a grandparent.
• Celebrate them: You don’t have to wait till you loose a loved one before you celebrate them. Celebrate the living, show them that you care while they still live and can appreciate you. We don’t have to wait till there’s a burial to show up, spend all the money and harbor regrets, we can spend the money and love on them while they yet live. Birthdays and wedding anniversaries are a great opportunity to celebrate our parents and show them love.
• Visit them: Yes, we are all busy, but we should make time to visit them or rather have them visit. It could be a very challenging stage of life, one moment there are children running up and down the house and the next moment they’ve all gone off. Always create time to visit them or invite them to come and spend time with you. If you have children, take them to see their grandparents.
• Understand them: It’s normal that we could have arguments with our parents and get angry with them. Most times parents provoke children mostly because they expect more from us, but there’s always love in the background. Understanding is key. In the end, they are still the parents and we owe them our honor and respect. I always get into father-daughter fights with my dad, nobody annoys me like he does😁, but in the end, I remain his baby girl.
In conclusion, as a daughter of Zion that I am, I bring to you;
Ephesians 6:1-4 (NIV)
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” 4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
Thank you for stopping by my dear reader, cheers to growth, and a better relationship with our parents, grandparents and people generally. See you soon.